Reflecting on what we value

Came across the words of Basil Pennington and how he defines unhappiness - "a result of not being able to do something I want to do, have something I want to have, or concern about what others will think of me"

Do we value what we have, can do, or merely what others think of us?    Indeed this is true and the struggle with anyone who is honest.  How true for anyone in any sort of public leadership type of vocation.